My question was not based upon a society of equals, but it was based on a society where all have access to school, which is the case in the US.
Did you get ANY messages from guys that seemed nice at all? For someone to truly connect with another person and feel completely content with another they must first know and accept themselves. At least years ago there were really good places to go to meet a good woman for a very good relationship since you had parties, church dances, at school, through friends and families as well as neighbors that would introduce you to someone that they think would be right for you which now it has become very impossible unfortunately. My answer will likely seem off topic and possibly confusing. Dating websites, is a bit like a competition at least it seems like that, where you're competing with everyone else.